Call for Submissions: New Views on Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law

This came my way today. I can’t wait to read this book! See below, and pass it on.


Call for Submissions: New Views on Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law, 2 Volumes
Edited by Lynn Comella, PhD and Shira Tarrant, PhD
Deadline: July 30, 2012

Co-editors Lynn Comella (University of Las Vegas, Nevada) and Shira Tarrant (California State University, Long Beach) are seeking submissions for a two-volume edited collection under contract with Praeger.

Description: New Views on Pornography is a two-volume collection of the most current scholarship on pornography. This edited series presents empirical research on a range of contemporary issues regarding pornography’s politics, psychology, cultural and legal debates, providing a comprehensive and multidisciplinary overview of the field of porn studies in one convenient location …

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A Busy Week in Sex Education

The weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day are always hectic for sex educators, especially for those of us at Good Vibrations. But this next week is even more jam packed with fun sex ed stuff than usual. Here’s where you can find me. Maybe I’ll see you at one of these amazing events!


Ask our Docs: Prostate Play and Pleasure

January 25, 7-8 pm, Free
Good Vibrations Valencia St., 603 Valencia St. (at 17th), San Francisco
The prostate is one of the most overlooked sexual organs, but it can bring you amazing pleasure. With a little know-how, you can have lots of prostate fun, on your own or with a partner. Charlie Glickman, Ph.D will tell you everything you need to know …

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Open Relationships, Infidelity, and Cheating

It's Not Cheating if my Husband Watches


I’m generally in favor of anything that gets more discussion of sexual and relationship diversity into the news, but the recent allegations by Newt Gingrich’s second wife about his demand for an “open marriage” after having an affair for six years has highlighted the general confusion about what these words mean.

For example, W. Bradford Wilcox, the Director of the National Marriage Project, wrote in an opinion piece:

[I]n the United States today, women are significantly more likely to express opposition to infidelity and significantly less likely to engage in it. In the 2000s, only 10 percent of married women, compared with 16 percent of married men, reported that they had been unfaithful to their spouse, according to the General Social Survey.

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Upcoming Event: Sex Positive Discussion Panel at Mills College

One of the best things about my job is getting to geek out about sex with other brainy folks. So I’m really looking forward to the Sex Positive Discussion Panel at Mills College. We’ll be talking about issues of consent, how to navigate its many nuances, and ways to integrate it into our sex lives. Here’s all the info about the panel. And if you can’t make it, follow the #sexpositivemills hastag. And if you want to help get the word out, please pass the Facebook event page and the Brown Paper Tickets link along.

See you there!


Sex Positive Discussion Panel
Lisser Theater, Mills College, Oakland, CA
January 27, 7-10 pm, $7.50
Purchase tickets and find location info here
The Mills College Community Health …

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Where Does Validation Come From?

A couple of weeks ago, I was interviewed by Hugo Schwyzer for his article He Wants to Jizz on Your Face, but Not Why You Think. Without stepping into the latest internet uproar about Hugo and the various things people are saying about him online (feel free to google it, if you like), I think there’s actually more to be said about the topic of that post.


Hugo’s thesis was that, while facials can certainly be an act of degradation, they can also be interpreted as “men’s desire for that same experience of being validated as desirable, as good, as ‘not dirty.’” For some people, male sexual desire and male bodies are seen as dirty, disgusting, or unpleasant and men who have internalized these …

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Come to the “XXXY” Screening 1/26/12

Advocates for Informed Choice, an amazing organization that advocates for the civil rights of children who are born with variations of sex anatomy. It’s estimated that 1 in 2000 children are born with reproductive or sexual anatomy and/or chromosome patterns that don’t fit the usual definitions of male or female. And in most cases, the medical response is to perform surgeries. In fact, many doctors view children born with DSD (differences in sex development) as an emergency that requires an immediate response. This often results in pressuring parents to make quick decisions about things that they might not even have heard of before. Fortunately, AIC is working to change that and there’s been some progress.

On January 26, 2012 in San Francisco, AIC is …

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Upcoming Workshop: Prostate Play at the Looking Glass

I really enjoy talking with folks about prostate play. I’m always amazed at how many folks are exploring this part of their bodies and discovering how much fun and pleasure it can bring. And I’m really looking forward to teaching this workshop with my dear friend, Aislinn Emirzian.

If you’re curious about p-spot pleasure or you just want some new ways to have a great time, come join us!


Prostate Play with Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian!
The Looking Glass, Oakland, CA
January 29, 2-4 pm, $20 or $35/pair
Purchase tickets and find location info here
The prostate is one of the most overlooked sources of sexual pleasure but with a little know-how, you can tap into its amazing sexual potential. Sex educators Charlie …

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FTM Dissertation Study: Participants Needed


Via Sinclair Sexsmith

Just helping get the word out. See below for details, and please pass it on.


 

  • Are you a female-to-male transsexual age 25-45?
  • Have you been on testosterone for five years or more?
  • Do you live full time as a man?
  • Were you primarily sexually attracted to women before transition, and now have a primary sexual attraction to men (after transition)?

Dylon is a graduate student studying clinical psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology, and he is recruiting participants for a confidential study about their experience of sexual orientation in relation to their transition. It is his hope that this project will increase trans visibility, and consequently increase the availability of resources to our community.

If you would like to …

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Come To the [SSEX BBOX] Premiere Party!

I’ve written about [SSEX BBOX] before because it’s such an amazing project. The filmmakers have been interviewing smart, thoughtful, sexy people in São Paulo, Barcelona, Berlin and San Francisco, four cities known for sex-positivity and celebration of sexual diversity. They’re putting together a fantastic documentary and the last time I spoke with them, they were working on getting Portuguese, Spanish, German, and English subtitles translated in order to help spread the stories and wisdom their participants shared. That’s especially challenging since each culture has created new languages for talking about sex, so SSEX BBOX is going to bring some new connections into the world. Ultimately, there will be a whole series of web episodes for the project.

On January 30, the Center for Sex

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What Does It Mean To Be Empowered?

power button


I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be empowered. It’s a question that frequently comes up in discussions about sexuality, sexism, porn, choice, and sex-positivity. I recently ran across this post on the topic by Jennifer Kesler which points out some of the ways in which this word is misunderstood and the effects that can have on how we think about our sexualities.

One of the things that Kesler points out (rightfully, I think) is that the word empowerment has been co-opted by a variety of people and forces that don’t have our best interests at heart. Rather than the original definition as “a multi-dimensional social process that helps people gain control over their own lives,” it’s often used in ways …

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