Comments on: Good Touch in a Touch-Phobic World http://www.charlieglickman.com/2010/03/good-touch-in-a-touch-phobic-world/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=good-touch-in-a-touch-phobic-world Adult Sexuality Education Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:37:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Destin Gerek http://www.charlieglickman.com/2010/03/good-touch-in-a-touch-phobic-world/comment-page-1/#comment-719 Destin Gerek Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:19:08 +0000 http://www.charlieglickman.com/?p=5411#comment-719 Great article. Thanks for writing it. I'd like to make one comment/addition. "Of course, I’m not suggesting that all touch is good- most of the people I’ve ever spoken with about it have experienced the creepy kind of touch, and every woman I know has been the target of intrusive physical contact, sexual harassment and/or assault. Sometimes, it’s really hard to define what makes the experience unpleasant, other than “it felt weird,” while other situations are pretty obvious." I'd like to offer the other side of this... It is well documented that boys receive far less touch growing up than girls do. It only makes sense that many will grow into men that simply do not know how to give good touch. Quite often, it isn't anything malicious on their part, and most, if not all, would LOVE to know how to touch a woman in a way that made her feel good, instead of creeped out. They simply do not know how to. We ALL suffer from our touch-phobic society. How can we truly show up with compassion for each other? Great article. Thanks for writing it.

I’d like to make one comment/addition.

“Of course, I’m not suggesting that all touch is good- most of the people I’ve ever spoken with about it have experienced the creepy kind of touch, and every woman I know has been the target of intrusive physical contact, sexual harassment and/or assault. Sometimes, it’s really hard to define what makes the experience unpleasant, other than “it felt weird,” while other situations are pretty obvious.”

I’d like to offer the other side of this…

It is well documented that boys receive far less touch growing up than girls do. It only makes sense that many will grow into men that simply do not know how to give good touch. Quite often, it isn’t anything malicious on their part, and most, if not all, would LOVE to know how to touch a woman in a way that made her feel good, instead of creeped out. They simply do not know how to. We ALL suffer from our touch-phobic society. How can we truly show up with compassion for each other?

]]> By: Jeffry Winters http://www.charlieglickman.com/2010/03/good-touch-in-a-touch-phobic-world/comment-page-1/#comment-718 Jeffry Winters Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:28:45 +0000 http://www.charlieglickman.com/?p=5411#comment-718 I'm all for good touch. We all need hugs and a lot of them. But I've had my relatively innocent hugs misinterpreted by folks who I know to be survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Now I'm seen as the creepy guy. It's a sad statement. Thankfully I've had the opportunity to examine the situation with the people involved and all is well. The bottom line is that I need to be more careful who and how I hug. I wish it was different. I’m all for good touch. We all need hugs and a lot of them. But I’ve had my relatively innocent hugs misinterpreted by folks who I know to be survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Now I’m seen as the creepy guy. It’s a sad statement. Thankfully I’ve had the opportunity to examine the situation with the people involved and all is well. The bottom line is that I need to be more careful who and how I hug. I wish it was different.

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