I woke up this morning to discover this in my twitter feed:
RT @TheFakeEscort: Alexa di Carlo “really” a man named Thomas “Pat” Bohannan. Deets: http://exposeabro-alexa.blogspot.com
Since I was well aware of the controversy surrounding Alexa’s blog www.realprincessdiaries.com (now offline) was listed as the Between My Sheets top sex blog of 2010, I’m not surprised that things finally came tumbling down for Alexa. That level of notoriety often leads to the sort of scrutiny that filters the truth from the lies.
I’ll admit that when I first read the Real Princess Diaries, I bought into the story. The writing was really good, both in terms of the technical proficiency and the stories. I know a lot of real-life escorts are very careful to keep their online personnas separate from their personal lives, so it didn’t set off any immediate warning bells. Similarly, quite a few online sex writers work anonymously in order to avoid losing their jobs or other problems. Also, most of the how-to information was more or less accurate. Certainly, I’ve read plenty of worse sex advice from self-proclaimed sexperts, so the occasional inaccuracy didn’t really stand out to me. So I invited Alexa to participate in the Good Vibrations Sex Educator Profile Series and posted her profile.
However, last December, after reading an article on Carnal Nation and and talking/emailing/tweeting with quite a few people, I started doing a little digging. Part of what made this take a while is that different people had different pieces of the puzzle. I heard about Alexa’s attempts to infiltrate sex worker rights organizations from one person. I heard about how Alexa spent time on youth sex ed message boards and set up a now-defunct website from someone else. Then I discovered that the photos that were ostensibly of Alexa were lifted from a cam girl’s website. And then it occurred to me to check Redbook, a website devoted to advertising and reviewing sex workers. Even folks who don’t advertise on the site almost always have client reviews, so it was clearly suspicious that nobody had reviewed Alexa. Perhaps none of these, other than using someone else’s photos, would be enough to put it together, but when all of the pieces were laid out, it was clear that Alexa wasn’t who everyone thought she was and I removed her profile. For the details, click on the image above.
For the last year, I’ve been keeping track of the developments.Each time someone pointed out an inconsistency or something that cast doubt on something Alexa wrote, that blog post would suddenly disappear. Mostly, though, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop. That happened this morning, when a site went up claiming to have the faxts behind Alexa. It says that Alexa is a guy named Thomas “Pat” Bohannan. While I can’t vouch for the accuracy of everything there, I had been told last year that Alexa’s IP address came from Philadelphia, as described on the exposé site. I also knew that Alexa had been behind the website Caitlin’s Corner and had been banned form Student.com and Scarleteen.com, as described.
Alexa’s Fetlife profile has been mostly stripped, along with what appears to be another site run by the same person, The Sensual Exhibitionist. Here’s a screen capture of the site taken from Google’s cache. Longtime readers of Alexa will see that the background and writing style look pretty much the same. Remember- just because you delete something doesn’t mean it’s gone from the internet.
So what’s the big deal? Personally, I don’t care if someone wants to create an online fantasy personna. I don’t think it’s necessarily bad or unhealthy to explore the different facets of our psyches by writing stories. A lot of people do it and have fun with it. And a lot of people read these stories and enjoy them. For that matter, I don’t even care when people give anonymous sex advice. Some of it is accurate and some of it really isn’t, but I figure it’s up to the reader to do due diligence when researching anything online.
But I do take exception when someone creates false credentials in order to dupe the gullible. I worked hard to get a doctorate in sex education and many of my colleagues, whether they have academic credentials or not, have dedicated years of their lives to learn about sexuality in order to provide good information. I feel a lot of anger when someone pretends to have done the work in order to make it seem as if they know what they’re talking about.
It also upsets me when people misrepresent sex work. Usually, people make it seem as if it’s much a much worse career than it might be, especially when they want to ban it. But it’s also problematic when people glorify it because it creates a misrepresentation of the challenges and difficulties that sex workers face. In turn, this romanticizes the profession and makes it more likely that people will decide to try it out without knowing how to protect themselves. Plus, sex workers have always struggled with people who talk about them without listening to them. The motto “not about us without us” fits here- if you’re not a sex worker, don’t spout off about what it’s like. Listen to sex workers and be an ally without speaking for other people. They can speak for themselves.
Is “Alexa” gone for good? Maybe. But dealing with things like this on the internet is like playing whack-a-mole. If this guy (or whoever is behind Alexa) doesn’t start another site, someone else will. And I’m sure that no matter what the evidence, some people will refuse to believe it, perhaps because they hoped that the fantasy was real or because it’s hard to admit when you’ve been duped. In either case, I’m glad that the truth is coming out and I’m looking forward to seeing how this develops.
Charlie Glickman
I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, and occasional university professor. I'm also the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations, where I edit the online Magazine. I also teach workshops, seminars, and university courses on sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information or to arrange a speaking engagement.
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you, not today, stated “I don’t think any of us can make any assumptions about what this individual’s life is like right now unless we happen to know this person.”
any of us who are sex workers know exactly how he feels right now being publicly maligned, because we are constantly faced with the threat of outing ourselves and we would know how it feels if it were one of us. and it’s intriguing to me that you can easily write off the statement of defense he made, but not the equally-anonymous statements of others that condemn him here.
someone or some people DO have the power to undo this – they can take the shit down.
as far as ME reporting on this dude’s behalf… why would i do that? this doesn’t effect me. however, i did see people claiming that all sex workers agree on the treatment of this individual and i think it’s important to make it clear that that is absolutely false.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
@charlie,
in all fields people fake credentials all the time. especially on the internet, people lie about everything. singling out and maligning one individual for something tons of people do without repercussion is wrong, wrong, and wrong.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
@Beth
Are you saying that because a lot of people do it, we shouldn’t call someone out for doing it? That doesn’t seem like a solution either.
Charlie(Quote) (Reply)
yes, precisely. i don’t have the solution, but i am pretty passionately sure that this is NO good solution.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
Then what do you suggest we do?
If we do nothing, then things get worse because there are no repercussions to misrepresenting credentials. If we call someone out, then (by your lights) we’re being unfair because we didn’t do that with everyone. If we try to speak with someone privately (as I know quite a few people did with Alexa), then either we scare them into stopping or nothing changes. If nothing changes, we’re back at the beginning. And calling everyone out who misrepresents themselves isn’t possible, simple because of the scale of the problem.
So what’s left? If there is no good solution, then what is the value in pointing out that what someone does is wrong? Unless you’re hoping to inspire someone to come up with an alternative, or unless you’re trying to come up with one yourself, it seems like an ineffective way to respond.
Charlie(Quote) (Reply)
my ideas? i’d hope people smarter than me would have some. but mine are:
that these people take their evidence to a lawyer and off of the internet, and prosecute appropriately. then, after a guilty verdict has been made, i believe they are free to report as much as they want on the trial, the evidence they found, and the man who is guilty.
i even think that the expose-a-bro website could be up, with his name/workplace blurred out, just to demonstrate that all of this information was collected but is being protected for legal and/or ethical purposes, and that would still be a step up from where we are now, a bunch of – by society’s standards – sexual deviants attacking another sexual deviant. it would still demonstrate that “alexa” is phony: there were enough similarities between the page he put up with his torso image and biography and this character alexa/caitlain to make it clear without actually putting his name out there.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
I could barely believe the long term status of this deception so I did my own checking, pretty simple given the existence of archive.org. As far back as 2004 Agent69 on Student.com – http://www.student.com/profile/contact.php?the_profile_name=Agent69 -, who is Caitlin and thereby is also “Alexa” was giving out her own brand of inappropriate sexual information to teens.
I only had the stomach to look at one of the entries; How to Eat Ass seemed a good place to start (and end) since PatBo talks, in his PSE Blog, about his love of that activity, and Alexa, in her email to the poor woman who ended up meeting PatBo, had also stated, “He also really knows how to eat ass – probably my best client for that.”
This link is to Caitlin/Cathy/Alexa/Pat’s journal at Student.com. http://web.archive.org/web/20041221204205/http://journals.studentcenter.org/journal/agent69 The language is highly inappropriate and there is no mention of barrier methods; it’s all just a helluva juvenile sounding mess peppered with LOL’s and :-O’s. Compare that to how a reputable sex ed resource for teens, Scarleteen, talks about analingus – http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/what_exactly_is_a_rim_job.
I bring this up because while I’m struggling with how ExposeABro went about the outing of PatBo, this person was not going to go away easily. Someone who spent at least 6 years creating and maintaining multiple incarnations is someone very invested in their extremely sick deception.
Tess(Quote) (Reply)
@Charlie
“Gee. We just HAD to march on down to the courthouse, yank that guy out of his cell, and string him up. After all, law enforcement just wasn’t DOING anything!”
Seriously, Charlie? We don’t live in a lawless, anarchy world where whatever the mob decides to do is justified if the person they’re after is evil.
Again, if you allow for people to be shut down like this (through anonymous mob action), for the alleged “protection of the community” (for this is what you’re arguing), you open the door to all manner of such actions. And these will be mostly perpetrated AGAINST sex workers, against porn, against “deviance”, against whatever the right wing decides is icky and thus harmful to the community.
We really don’t want to go down that slippery slope. Beth had a rational, reasonable, thoughtful answer to what could have / should have been done. Then again, I’m sure people are starting to dismiss HER as an Alexa sockpuppet too, eh?
DelightAndDole(Quote) (Reply)
Charlie, as a mental health professional-even though based specifically in sexuality-why have you not spoken against Trixie’s extremely dangerous stretch of “He deceived, and therefore may end up committing murder”? Given what sex workers encounter doing their jobs, one could argue that Trixie is at more significant risk of such eventual behavior-where the Alexa persona has backed off, Trixie(and others)have used conjecture and speculation to destroy a person with little to no substantive evidence.
I’m just sayin’.
E(Quote) (Reply)
People DO fake credentials in all fields. However, sexuality – the way “Caitlain” ran with it on Caitlain’s Corner – often involved medical advice. When you’re faking credentials and giving out medical, legal, or psychological advice, you’re really doing a disservice to everybody and it’s much, much worse than saying you graduated with a 4.0 in computer science when you actually got a 3.9. I mean, really, this is a huge deal. When people pretend to be experts on stuff that they’re not, it can hurt people. And that is what she did.
As for “Cathy” being around since 2004, I think she was actually around before that, maybe 2003. So yes, this person faked their life for 7 years, most likely. I think it just got more complicated in time. First it was a way of getting teens to trust him, then getting their pictures and hearing about their sexploits and fantasies. After that, he realized he could take it up a notch wit the Alexa thing – and used some of them for advice on what his website should look like. Alexa can be an escort, and get this guy in the door. And if he also wrote a blog as Alexa, it makes it seem even more realistic.
He built layer upon layer upon layer to move up to the next level. For seven years. And anybody that ever tried to out him was threatened/harassed/insulted/discredited in some way. Just look at the whole “Expose-A-Ho” thing for evidence of that.
Someone(Quote) (Reply)
@D&D
Please stop putting words in my mouth. Can you point to where I’m saying that we had to string someone up?
You’re right that Beth had a good answer. And she posted that comment after I specifically asked her what she would suggest. She said that there were no solutions, I listed a few possible choices that people could make, and she offered something else. It was a good example of a civil dialogue.
What we’re really talking about is shaming someone into stopping what they’re doing. Shame and anger are two very (and unfortunately) human ways that people try to control and influence other people’s actions. Please note, before you get angry with me again, that I’m not saying that they’re good responses, just human responses. And for that matter, your anger at me and other folks, here and elsewhere, is quite palpable. Given that many of the people who are doing things that you disagree with are coming from a place of anger, you might want to suggest ways people could respond constructively instead of reacting. It’d be more constructive than what you’re doing.
Charlie(Quote) (Reply)
Beth: on your suggestion about doing an expose like that but without directly identifying someone by name, I’m in agreement. I do think that would have been more sound. I also very much support that bringing this information first to law enforcement would have been ideal (though I also have no idea if anyone did already do that well before this, which they may have, for all we know).
Alas, that’s not what seems to have happened or were the choices someone made here, and since (one presumes) none of us are either the individual who wrote the expose nor the individual who created and defrauded people with these personas, we don’t have any control over what that person chose to do. All I believe we can do now, not being that person nor the individual who created these personas, is either stay out of it entirely or choose to respond as best we can with the situation there is to respond to.
Not Today(Quote) (Reply)
@E
Actually, I’m not a mental health professional, although I’m not sure how that’s necessarily relevant.
Unless I’ve missed something, Trixie’s comments (here, here, here, here, here, and here) don’t say anything about “He deceived, and therefore may end up committing murder”.
So what are you talking about?
Charlie(Quote) (Reply)
Apologies to Trixie-it was OMGKoala who made the remark:
“However, I would like to state that we don’t know how this might have escalated if some type of intervention did not occur. Many serial killers and rapists crimes continue to escalate in violence as they seek to have a more “intense” experience. Starting by merely deceiving sex-workers may have later lead to rape or murder.”
It’s like…really? Good grief. Mental health professional was the wrong phrase, I guess. What profession is sexuality education umbrella’d under? It seems someone who focuses on sexual health and education would have an interest in their clients mental well-being, or is that incorrect? Consultations made me assume counseling and guidance were part of your interactions, at least in some regard. OmgKoala’s comment is irresponsible, imo.
That I incorrectly attributed a very important point to the wrong person…considering the brevity of the comment…and the situation…ummm, either that was better weed than I thought or that mistake was really funny.
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E(Quote) (Reply)
it seems, not today, that you simply want me out of the conversation because i am a voice of dissent.
you say what we can do is “choose to respond as best we can with the situation there is to respond to.”
that’s what i am doing – speaking out and seemingly the ONLY sex worker speaking out against this atrocity.
E: pass that this way. and yes, OMGKoala’s remark is over the top outrageous facepalm quality irresponsibility if i ever have seen it. makes me ashamed to be a sex workers rights activist when i see the way these people talk sometimes.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
excuse me – let me fully disclose here. i am a retired or on hiatus sex worker (undecided). feel free to argue to discredit me for not being working at the moment, if that suits your taste.
but really, i’ll keep making my dissent known as long as this lunacy continues.
Beth Brigham(Quote) (Reply)
@Beth: I have no interest at all in excluding you or anyone else from this conversation. I also have no idea why you think I would give you more or less latitude based on the fact that you’re not an active sex worker right now or why you think that’s at all relevant to our exchanges.
I also most certainly have no interest in silencing voices of dissent, here or elsewhere. You don’t know me, so you can’t know how incredibly far off that is from the truth, but let me assure you that even the idea of that in nearly any situation is abhorrent enough to me that I’ve dedicated some years of my life to assuring everyone had the right to do exactly that.
To assure you of that in the way I think I can best in this particular exchange, I’ll just go ahead and exempt myself from the rest of this conversation.
Not Today(Quote) (Reply)
@Charlie,
My “putting words in your mouth” was meant merely as an analogy, and I intentionally couched it as an unrelated (but analogous) scene to indicate that. It’s unfortunate that you took it literally.
My reading of your remarks was that they were shrugging off the mob action as being necessary in this situation to protect the community. (“If we do nothing, then things get worse because there are no repercussions to misrepresenting credentials”). I disagree, for the reasons I stated.
The oldest tactic in the book is to tell someone in an argument, “gee, you seem really angry.” It elevates you and puts them instantly in the position of defending themselves. Am I the only one angry on this topic? Am I even the most angry of the commentators? Obviously not: go back and reread Trixie if you don’t agree. So why would you specifically address that comment to ME, Charlie?
Yes, the notion of anonymous mob action and people who feel self-righteously and nobly empowered to “out” individuals they don’t like or whom they find offensive: all that makes me indeed angry, and fearful, and pessimistic about where we’re all headed as a society. So call me crazy. If the same things don’t concern you and make YOU a little angry, as a sexuality educator and (I’d think) someone who supports alternative sexualities, I personally find that kind of surprising. But hey.
DelightAndDole(Quote) (Reply)
@D&D
Thanks for clarifying what you meant. I hope you can see how the way you wrote it made me think that you were attributing those words to me.
And no, I’m not suggesting that the only way to respond is through a mob. I was saying that if nobody does anything, things slide downhill. I could have been more clear if I had phrased it that way, rather than using “we,” which could easily sounds like I’m advocating for a group response.
You & I have each phrased things in ways that the other has heard differently than we intended. Whether that’s the result of our heated emotions, different communication styles, or something else, it does seem to get in the way of our hearing each other. I’m not sure what to do about that, other than ask you for clarification. I’d appreciate it if you did the same.
The reason I addressed that comment to you, to be honest, is that your anger has been coming out at me. Trixie’s anger was directed at you and I figured you could respond to that as you chose. I’ve had lots of different thoughts and emotions in response to this situation. I’ve felt anger, both at Alexa and at the way that this all came out. I’ve been working on a post about exactly that and I’ll be curious to know what you think.
Charlie(Quote) (Reply)
@Someone: How long did it take Blogspot to respond to your subpeona for information on the “Expose-a Ho” blog? Is the Expose-a-Ho blog the only evidence you have of threatening/discrediting, per your claim? Also, where is the evidence of having charged for any of the advice she gave? Are you positive that *all* identities/entities are connected intentionally? What is your proof? Is every 16-yr-old example you’ve found truly a minor(or, truly had been in this accused instance), and not a 45 yr old getting off as well?
@OMGKoala: How long did you observe the accused individual? Can you please link to scientific &/or academic works that illustrate cases of sociopaths similar to the accused, or that at least discuss these specific behaviors?
Are you positive Alexa collected the data? It could have been a fake form.
“To all those claiming that Alexa could have been stopped without the outing: Many tried that approach in December of last year, but because there was no “proof” this fraud was allowed to continue to the possible detriment of many.”
Interestingly, in both instances Alexa backed off while the witch hunters danced and chanted BURN BURN THEY HIDE THAT MEANS GUILT MWAHA! In the first situation, she returned and was then forced undercover again-if she was a known fraud, as you argue, why bother to go after her a second time? She had already been exposed. There was nothing further to expose, but plenty to destroy.
Charlie, if a facade is a facade how can the credentials have been a misrepresentation?
E(Quote) (Reply)
Finally, I am so glad this perv is exposed. But frankly he needs to be in prison. The reason so many of us were alarmed is because we *knew* that something was terribly off about the entire situation. That is what had so many people alarmed. Because friggin alarm bells were going off. We *knew* this pattern meant that more creepy ass *wrong* shit was jumpin off with this guy pretending to be lil “caitlin” and “Alexa”. Please let me know if this guy is getting reported to the authorities. I would like to see this case go to the feds. If you need any help with pushing this issue forward, let me know. I am pretty easy to find off this blog.
towtruckpanties(Quote) (Reply)
Ahhh, E..I do believe that you are doing some wishful thinking there.
The main reason “Alexa” disappeared the first time in December 2009 was it was revealed that she had lied about (1) being a professional sex educator; (2) stealing photos from other sites, and (3) being enrolled at San Francisco State’s Sexuality Studies program. She did attempt to offer a cryptic “defense” of herself, but that was more like a “fuck you” than anything else. And rememver: she could have readily kept her blog open and defended herself, but SHE made the decision to shut down then….just as she did with the allegations last week.
Like I said, I’m not in the position of saying whether or not PatBo really is a pedophile or a sexual predator; people like Furry Girl, MonicaMayhem, and the folks at Expose a Bro are the ones making that accusation. What I am in a position to conclude based on the evidence provided is that either “Alexa” /”Caitlain”/”Cathy” was in fact a human being who played a lot of people for suckers with her games, including Bohannon…or, Bohannon simply invented all these personas to pursue HIS twisted roleplay fantasy game. Either way, real people were deceived and hurt pretty badly, and someone has to be held accountable.
Now..I’m kinda skeeved at the reaction of some who are cheering and high-fiving themselves that they stopped a pedophile and that anyone who didn’t totally back them when the first exposures of “Alexa”/”Caitlain” were made public were simply enablers of “her” predatory behavior. On the other hand, I’m just as skeeved at the reaction of folks like DelightandDole, who seem to think that there was absolutely nothing going on, that PatBo was merely an innocent bystander, and even that “Alexa” really did exist and was even a victim of the supposed “mob mentality”. As it stands, the evidence does point to PatBo as an instigator and enabler..but let’s cool the rhetoric a bit on convicting him until we see more. The impacts are bad enough without resorting to hyperbole and rumor.
Anthony
Anthony Kennerson(Quote) (Reply)
Well, Anthony, I’m sorry I “skeeved you out”, but that might have several causes that you haven’t considered…
1) that you simply haven’t been paying attention. Rather than my saying anything of the sort that you claim (that there was absolutely nothing going on, that PatBo was an innocent bystander, that Alexa really did exist), I actually have said JUST the opposite, from the moment the Expose-a-Bro thing came to my attention. E.g., I wrote, “Very few people, since the brouhaha of last December, still were taking Alexa literally. That doesn’t mean that her site and tweets weren’t enjoyed by many, even among those who were pretty sure that it was all an elaborate game (as so much in sexuality is, no?)” You can disagree with my view of whether her site was enjoyable or OK, but please don’t claim that I said there was absolutely nothing going on.
2) That you’re simply following along with the many rabid commentators on this board and others, who lump anyone who disagrees with any aspect of the PatBo outing into one group, and then accuse that group of blindingly “defending Alexa.” If you read the boards, again and again, you will see people like me spreading their hands and wondering why they have to continue to write things like “I never said that ‘Alexa’ was in the right…”
3) That you’re actually part of this problem. While maintaining that there was no witch hunt, you yourself do things like blindly accuse people you disagree with (e.g., me, at least twice) of being an Alexa alias (e.g., here and here ). You seem unable to imagine anyone disagreeing with the “outing” who isn’t themselves Alexa/PatBo, and that would appear to indicate, well, rather limited thinking.
Otherwise, I’m awfully glad you’re now, finally, calling for a cooling of the rhetoric and stopping “resorting to hyperbole and rumor”. That’s what I’ve been calling for from the start. But hey.
DelightAndDole(Quote) (Reply)
I’m a sex worker, have been for a decade. I have been reading about this for a month, and I don’t believe Pat is Alexa. I just don’t. You can believe I’d let a shmuck take the downfall for me. I have been able to advertise and hide on the internet extremely well. Impressively, because i follow rules of privacy on the net from the 90s, not the 00s. I can be barely be found. If this perp is guilty, let him hang. But as a sex worker, and a proud feminist, I must say, he is too thorough for this to smack of reality. He’s a scapegoat, and too bad on him. But, better him than her.
We anomalies exist on the inernet, and that is all.
Sex Worker(Quote) (Reply)
And you’re wrong, sex worker. A lot of people believed Alexa (then Cathy) was a man back in 2003. We never gave up that belief, and we knew it’d eventually come out. Alexa is not a sex worker, just some weird perv that was into teens and then branched out from there. As someone that was there when the whole “Cathy” thing started – which is where this all grew from – I can tell you, assuredly that there is no sex worker. Just someone playing games and making things up. Whether it is a man or not, I can’t say for sure, but I have always known the person was fake. And Pat is likely the person behind this all.
J(Quote) (Reply)
Hi. I just wanted to say that I have some military training in cryptology and detecting lies. Delight and Dole, I have no idea who you are or if you could reasonably be Pat Bohannan but I can say that you indeed DO share some SIMILAR speech patterns with HIM. YOU like to CAPITALIZE words that you feel are IMPORTANT to EMPHASIZE to prove a POINT. However, there are tons of people who have this habit so I cannot fairly say beyond a benefit of a doubt that YOU are HIM. I can’t know if you are lying unless I were to speak to you face to face which kind of ruins the point of being anonymous on this site. All I can say is that you two share that habit…
LPR(Quote) (Reply)
I have to say as an web admin myself what he states about being the admin contact on the fake websites is entirely plausible, I am myself the admin contact on hundreds of domains and have little idea (or care) what the websites have on them, its just a hosting technical contact and nothing to do with ownership.
The books, well maybe he really did have an interest in them and it is a little crazy sex workers would point at someone and say in effect is slept with a sex worker so must be guilty.
Having read his reply I can’t help feeling there is something to this and maybe he has a case to answer but the evidence is underwhelming to say the least.
W Williams(Quote) (Reply)
Yes, indeed… I do find his evidence underwhelming.
J(Quote) (Reply)
No surprise there. RPD always read like a male fantasy
Corinne(Quote) (Reply)
I had a falling out with the person I knew as Caitlain/Alexa in July of 2008, and yes, I suspected “she” was a “he” but was never quite sure.
Perhaps, this, thinking back, is why we had a falling out.
This information does however offer closure.
LG(Quote) (Reply)
There was a recent iteration I’m fairly positive was the same person, this time on Literotica that when by the user name “HeyItsDani”… I found out about this person, because someone saw my photos on Literotica and asked if that was me. (The “Dani” person in question stole almost EVERY SINGLE PHOTO from my tumblr, FetLife, and mobypic accounts and posted them, weaving together some elaborate story of some–surprise, surprise–sexually liberated, well-spoken, and exhibitionist sex worker.)
Thankfully, once I was given a link to the thread where all my photos and videos were posted, it didn’t take long before both myself and a team of real-life friends got the moderators to pull “her” work off the web.
Mostly I was just infuriated that my photos were being used in that way.
As of today, however, there is still a profile for this person on Literotica though, which uses one of my photos in a cropped version. http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=1344932&page=bio
It’s frustrating, but clearly it seems to me that Alexa is likely never to be gone for good.
lovingslut(Quote) (Reply)