There are a lot of people calling themselves sex educators these days. It’s a really exciting field and getting to talk about sex and pleasure is a lot of fun. But the abundance of people teaching workshops makes it hard to make a living at it. In my experience, that’s even more true in the [...]

Have you ever tasted something and needed a second taste to decide if you liked it or not? I was recently out at a restaurant with a friend and we traded tastes of our food. While the initial sample of their entree was ok, I could tell that I needed a second taste to decide [...]

I’m always intrigued by the many ways that sex and shame intertwine in our culture, and “revenge porn” says a lot about that. Revenge porn sites, if you aren’t familiar with them, are designed for men who want to upload sexy photos of their ex-girlfriends and lovers without permission. One of the most common scenarios [...]

This post first appeared on Sinclair Sexsmith’s blog. Sinclair has been interviewing different folks about their experiences with polyamory and open relationships. The series is definitely worth checking out. 1. What insight about polyamory/open relationships would you share with your younger self? My partner and I have been together for over 20 years and we’ve [...]

I know a lot of awesome people. And I’ve noticed that although they are all really different, there are some patterns among them. I think the world will be a much better place when there are even more awesome folks, so here are some things we can each do to make that happen. Surround Yourself [...]

Here’s a question that came my way that I think a lot of people will resonate with. My partner (male) and I (female) have mismatched libidos and this has been very hard for both of us because of the cultural garbage that we are fed about the different roles of men and women in sexual [...]

As many folks know, I’ve worked at Good Vibrations since 1996. It’s been an amazing journey, and now it’s time for me to move on. My job at Good Vibrations was one of the most incredible opportunities I could ever have had. Although I’d been a sex educator before that, working in the store and [...]

I’m delighted to announce the book launch events for The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men & Their Partners. Written by Aislinn Emirzian and me, with a foreword from the stellar Dr. Carol Queen and an afterword from the amazing Dr. Debby Herbenick, this guide gives you all of the info you need to discover [...]

I have a confession to make. Taking no for an answer doesn’t always happen easily. See, there’s been a lot of conversation in different online and in-person communities that I move through about “creepy men.” I’ve even written this piece on five things men can do to not be creepy. Part of those discussions include [...]

There’s a curious pattern I’ve seen a lot of people (including myself) do in close relationships. We often expect our partners, friends, and family members to appreciate the things we do for them without our having to tell them what we’ve done. I understand the impulse. Sometimes, it feels like telling people what I do [...]