Things have been really exciting around here lately. Aislinn and I have been on the road to get the word out about The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure and we’ve had a great time. So far, we’ve been to Boston, Seattle (twice), Portland, LA, San Diego, Albuquerque, Santa Cruz, and a bunch of places throughout [...]

This is really amazing news. For the first time, a lawsuit has been filed because of a surgery performed on an intersex child. For many years, medical professionals have pressured parents of children with intersex conditions to consent to surgery to try to “fix” them. Not only do the surgeries not do what the doctors [...]

I’m a big fan of efficient hedonism. Let me tell you what that means. I once read a story about an 80-year-old judo master who had been studying martial arts ever since he was a child. He said that when he was younger, he could have less-than-perfect form and make up for it with strength [...]

On a recent plane trip, I had the row to myself. I turned off all three video screens in my row because I dislike having a movie or TV show running if I’m not looking at it. Moving images catch my eye and I find it easier to not have them going than to ignore [...]

I’ve been leaning into some edges lately and learning how to ask people for help. Specifically, asking people I don’t know well for things has been a difficult thing for me. It’s been coming up since I’ve been on tour for The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure because I’ve asked a few people I didn’t [...]

I recently discovered a post that Yahsar All wrote last year about the ways in which men are often coddled around their emotions by the women in their lives. Rather than expecting guys to speak up about their feelings, to apologize when they need to, to express their needs and desires, many women will say [...]

It’s always amazing to me how squeamish university administrators and state legislators get when it comes to supporting Sex Week events. I’m scheduled to speak at the University of Tennessee Sex Week in April and I just found out that while the event is still on the calendar, the majority of the funding has been [...]

I recently got a text from a guy I know about a challenge he’s facing: How do you deal with turning down a woman you’re not interested in sex with? At first, this might seem like the answer is obvious. Just say no, right? But there’s a lot more to it than that and it’s [...]

I recently received this email about dealing with rejection. Since this is a common experience, the sender gave me permission to post this. I was wondering what your thoughts were on rejection. Not unavailability being mistaken for rejection, but actual rejection. While you can obviously chalk up some rejection to unavailability, there are often times [...]

There have been a lot of changes in my life lately. Ever since I left Good Vibrations, I’ve been leaning into some pretty intense edges and figuring out how to make some things happen that I’ve wanted to be able to do for a while. It’s been fascinating and fun, and just scary enough to [...]