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Although more people are discovering and exploring polyamory, it can be hard to find the support you need. A lot of therapists assume that poly folks can’t make a commitment or believe that their problems are due to being poly even though they’re the same issues and difficulties monogamous people have. (The Poly Friendly Professionals list is a good resource, btw.)
Akhila Kolesar, Ph.D. is forming a polyamory support group on Saturdays in San Francisco, so if you’re looking for some help navigating the challenges of your relationships, here’s a good place to go. Here’s the info from her flyer:
POLYAMORY PSYCHOTHERAPY GROUP
Saturdays 1-2:30pm Convenient Hayes Valley Location
Facilitated by Akhila E. A. Kolesar, Ph.D.
Polyamory is a special relational orientation that offers people
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Advocates for Informed Choice is an amazing organization. They’re advocating for the civil rights of children who are born with variations of sex anatomy and it’s important work.
When children are born with differences in sexual development, such as being intersex, it’s quite common for medical folks to pressure the parents into consenting to genital surgery to “correct” it. But the surgeries are not as effective as many folks might think and there are many unresolved legal and ethical questions.
Fortunately, AIC is working to change that and to help parents make the best decision for their children. The organization is a finalist in the $10,ooo Ashoka Changemakers competition and they need your vote to win. Please click on this link and vote for
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San Francisco has always had plenty of sex positive community groups, parties, events, and such. The folks being Kinky Salon have decided to go old school and create SanFranSexy, a zine all about sex. And while it’s available online, you can also get it for free at Good Vibrations’ SF stores, as well as lots of other places around the Bay Area.
I’ve been a contributor to the mag from the beginning and I’m pleased to announce that issue #3 has just hit. I wrote a piece on safer sex for play parties, and you’ll also find some funny stories, info about upcoming events, and some hot photos from Kinky Salon’s last event. Go on over and take
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Imagine, for a moment, what the world would be like if we took the same approach to money as we do to sex. Imagine trying to hide all evidence of money from children, telling them that it’s not something they should know about. Imagine shaming them for asking questions about it, for expressing an interest in it, and for wanting to experiment with it. Imagine that you never explained how budgets work, or how to balance a checkbook, or how to pay for anything. Then, imagine that when they turn 18, handing them a credit card and saying “good luck with that.”
In essence, that’s what we do with sex.
Would you be surprised if those young adults didn’t know how to responsibly handle money?
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This post also appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.
An article on the Stranger.com asks the question “why are so many gay kids killing themselves?” And the answer is that queer kids have always been at higher risk for suicide, drug abuse, depression, and sexual assault. For example, queer kids comprise up to 30% of teen suicides. And although we don’t know how many people are queer, it’s safe to say that it’s less than 30%, so there’s clearly a disproportionate impact.
Queer youth are also more likely to be homeless, mostly because their parents kick them out of the house when they come out (the awful term for it is “throwaway kids”). Imagine having to choose between being true to yourself or having a
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I got this info in my inbox today and thought I’d pass it along. See below for details and feel free to pass it along to anyone who might be interested.
They also have openings for medical assistants, clinicians, and nurses.
How would you like to make a living being a San Francisco Sex Educator!
Golden Gate Community Health is hiring and we are looking for a highly qualified sex education professional. The ideal candidate would be familiar with SF schools, has experience teaching and ideally experience teaching sex ed. The must have their own transportation and be a able to work on their own as well as with a team.
For more information about the position check out the job description for Community Educator
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I love being a sex educator- there’s nothing quite as satisfying as knowing that right now, someone somewhere is having a better orgasm because of something I said to them. I want to help other sex educators develop their skills and discover how much fun it can be!
One of the biggest hurdles, though, is that most people who offer workshops get little or no training on how to teach. There’s more to it than standing in front of a room and talking for a couple of hours and there’s more to it than copying what you’ve seen in someone else’s classes. So I’m going to be teaching a workshop on how to teach, with a focus on the issues, concerns, challenges, and joys of
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One of the biggest difficulties queer, kinky, and/or polyamorous people face when looking for therapists or other mental health support is that professionals get very little training about any kind of sex, much less “alternative” sexualities. Despite the lack of any real correlation between being kinky (for example) and having mental health issues, many therapists assume that BDSM players are also abuse survivors. Of course, many kinky folks are, simply because there are a lot of survivors in the world, but if sexual assault caused kink, there’d be even more kinky folks. Similar attitudes about queers and polyamorous folks are also pretty common.
So it’s really great that the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities is hosting the 3rd Annual Alternative Sexualities Conference on
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This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.
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One of the most common complaints people have about porn is that it offers an unrealistic model of sex. Penises are always big and hard, vaginas are always ready for deep, thrusting penetration, there’s no lube, warm-up for anal sex, romance, connection, or conversation about likes, dislikes, STIs, and other real-life factors.
In response, the porn industry generally says, “So what? That’s not our job.” After all, if you’re learning how to do anything from TV or movies, you’re going to get it wrong. All media (other than the how-to type stuff that you’ll see on a few stations) offer a conveniently packaged and formulaic idea of how things
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Although I don’t identify as a feminist, I do describe myself as dedicated to fair and just treatment of all people, which includes working to end gender-based discrimination. One of the ways that this informs my work as a sex educator is that I advocate for accurate information that reflects the diversity of gender and recognizes that everyone should have the right to do what they want with their bodies, as long as it doesn’t cause harm to other people. Given the ways that this right is taken away from people based on their gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, social class, physical ability, etc., the links between sex-positivity and social justice seem pretty clear to me.
The amazing
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