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I’m really happy to announce that the first episode of [SSEX BBOX]is now available online!
[SSEX BBOX] is an ambitious documentary project, headed by Priscilla Bertucci. Their goal is to explore sex-positive communities in San Francisco, São Paolo, Berlin, & Barcelona (hence, the SS BB in the name) and explore the different ways that people in these locations are examining and discussing sexuality. By looking at how people are using sexuality as a means for social change, [SSEX BBOX] will help connect different movements and offer inspiration for new ideas.
I’ve spoken with sexologists from around the world and one of the challenges we face is that cultural differences and variations in language make it hard to translate concepts from one country to another. …
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I’m generally in favor of anything that gets more discussion of sexual and relationship diversity into the news, but the recent allegations by Newt Gingrich’s second wife about his demand for an “open marriage” after having an affair for six years has highlighted the general confusion about what these words mean.
For example, W. Bradford Wilcox, the Director of the National Marriage Project, wrote in an opinion piece:
[I]n the United States today, women are significantly more likely to express opposition to infidelity and significantly less likely to engage in it. In the 2000s, only 10 percent of married women, compared with 16 percent of married men, reported that they had been unfaithful to their spouse, according to the General Social Survey.
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Via Sinclair Sexsmith
Just helping get the word out. See below for details, and please pass it on.
- Are you a female-to-male transsexual age 25-45?
- Have you been on testosterone for five years or more?
- Do you live full time as a man?
- Were you primarily sexually attracted to women before transition, and now have a primary sexual attraction to men (after transition)?
Dylon is a graduate student studying clinical psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology, and he is recruiting participants for a confidential study about their experience of sexual orientation in relation to their transition. It is his hope that this project will increase trans visibility, and consequently increase the availability of resources to our community.
If you would like to …
Continue reading FTM Dissertation Study: Participants Needed
I’ve written about [SSEX BBOX] before because it’s such an amazing project. The filmmakers have been interviewing smart, thoughtful, sexy people in São Paulo, Barcelona, Berlin and San Francisco, four cities known for sex-positivity and celebration of sexual diversity. They’re putting together a fantastic documentary and the last time I spoke with them, they were working on getting Portuguese, Spanish, German, and English subtitles translated in order to help spread the stories and wisdom their participants shared. That’s especially challenging since each culture has created new languages for talking about sex, so SSEX BBOX is going to bring some new connections into the world. Ultimately, there will be a whole series of web episodes for the project.
On January 30, the Center for Sex …
Continue reading Come To the [SSEX BBOX] Premiere Party!
Have you noticed how often the word “family” or the term “family-friendly” gets used? And have you given any attention to what it has come to mean?
The newsfeeds have been all a-buzz today with the story of Leisha Hailey getting kicked off a Southwest Airlines plane when she kissed her girlfriend. According to the airline, some people complained that their kiss was excessive and when flight attendants stepped in, Hailey got upset, so they kicked her off the plane. It’s unlikely that Hailey and her girlfriend were doing anything that heterosexual couples haven’t done. And in fact, according to the conversation on The Talk about the event, it seems that when Bruce Jenner & his wife Kris snuck away to the bathroom when they …
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Last week, Fetlife (the kinky social networking site) went offline, as can happen. And the folks running the site decided it would be funny to tweet about it:
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Whoops… FetLife just went down like a drunk hooker…
Predictably enough, a mini twitter-storm ensued, as various folks called Fetlife out for it. And a few days later, a post by Rayne on Eden Cafe (the blog affiliated with sex toy company Eden Fantasys) defending the tweet as “just a joke” compounded the error. But that post and some of the comments highlight the confusion that a lot of people have about the original tweet.…
Continue reading Fetlife Just Doesn’t Get It When It Come to Joking About Sex Workers
About a month ago, Kitty Stryker wrote a piece for the Good Vibrations Magazine, I Never Called it Rape: Addressing Abuse in BDSM Communities, in which she opened up a really important topic. It’s one that’s been simmering for a while and now that it’s come up in such a public way, there’s been a lot of different responses. There’s been the predictable set of comments, both on the Good Vibrations Magazine and on Fetlife (a social networking site for the BDSM crowd).
Some folks are making excuses for doms who assault their subs, some people are asking why people who have been assaulted don’t report it, and a few are trying to find ways to make room for both BDSM and rape …
Continue reading BDSM & Rape: What Now?
Yes, the title is a mouthful, but the First Annual Conference on Earth-Based, Nature-Centered, Polytheistic and Indigenous Faiths: Gender & Earth-Based Faiths is going to be full of interesting presentations. If you’re pagan, witchy, wiccan, or any other flavor of earth-based faith, this one day con in San Francisco on September 24 is definitely worth going to. I’ll be presenting a workshop on masculinity and spirituality, btw.
They’re still looking for presenters, especially people who can discuss transgender, androgyne and genderqueer spiritual issues and practices. Check out the info below and pass it on!
CALL FOR PRESENTERS DEADLINE Extended to 8/7/11
To apply please email johanna@thepaganalliance.org for application.
Transgender and genderqueer presenters encouraged to apply. The Pagan Alliance’s first annual on Earth-Based, Nature-Centered, Polytheistic & …
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This past weekend, San Francisco hosted the 41st LGBT Pride Parade and as I was walking down Market St., I noticed how much Pride has changed since I first went to it, back in 1990.
Each year, more and more of my friends share the same observation with me: “There sure are a lot of straight folks at Pride.” Now, unlike a few people, I think that’s a great thing. There was a time when very few straight people, especially men under 30, would attend. I’ve always assumed that some of that was not wanting people to think that they were gay. And I also figure that some of it was being freaked out by the scantily-clad men wandering around. (The scantily-clad women never …
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There’s a youtube video making the rounds of a TEDxSF talk by Nicole Daedone, founder of OneTaste Urban Retreat Center, and there’s a lot of great stuff there. She talks about many of the challenges we have around sexual shame in general, and female orgasm in particular. She speaks with authenticity about topics that many people only whisper about, if that. And she offers some great insight for how we can change that. I liked it a lot and I definitely recommend checking it out.
At the same time, she said something that I found troubling:
Female orgasm is vital for every single woman on the planet… It roots our fundamental capacity for connection.
This is the kind of sweeping statement that a …
Continue reading Nicole Daedone and the Invisibility of Asexuality
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