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The weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day are always hectic for sex educators, especially for those of us at Good Vibrations. But this next week is even more jam packed with fun sex ed stuff than usual. Here’s where you can find me. Maybe I’ll see you at one of these amazing events!
Ask our Docs: Prostate Play and Pleasure
January 25, 7-8 pm, Free
Good Vibrations Valencia St., 603 Valencia St. (at 17th), San Francisco
The prostate is one of the most overlooked sexual organs, but it can bring you amazing pleasure. With a little know-how, you can have lots of prostate fun, on your own or with a partner. Charlie Glickman, Ph.D will tell you everything you need to know …
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A couple of weeks ago, I was interviewed by Hugo Schwyzer for his article He Wants to Jizz on Your Face, but Not Why You Think. Without stepping into the latest internet uproar about Hugo and the various things people are saying about him online (feel free to google it, if you like), I think there’s actually more to be said about the topic of that post.
Hugo’s thesis was that, while facials can certainly be an act of degradation, they can also be interpreted as “men’s desire for that same experience of being validated as desirable, as good, as ‘not dirty.’” For some people, male sexual desire and male bodies are seen as dirty, disgusting, or unpleasant and men who have internalized these …
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I really enjoy talking with folks about prostate play. I’m always amazed at how many folks are exploring this part of their bodies and discovering how much fun and pleasure it can bring. And I’m really looking forward to teaching this workshop with my dear friend, Aislinn Emirzian.
If you’re curious about p-spot pleasure or you just want some new ways to have a great time, come join us!
Prostate Play with Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian!
The Looking Glass, Oakland, CA
January 29, 2-4 pm, $20 or $35/pair
Purchase tickets and find location info here
The prostate is one of the most overlooked sources of sexual pleasure but with a little know-how, you can tap into its amazing sexual potential. Sex educators Charlie …
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It’s a cliche that before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes, but that’s because there’s a lot of truth to that statement. After all, once you’ve experienced something from another person’s perspective, it’s much easier to imagine what it’s like for them. That’s one reason why I think pegging can go a long way toward improving things. Pegging is the term for when women use dildos and strap-on harnesses with male partners. (Is there a different term when people of other genders use strap-ons with male partners?) And while the main reason people do it is because it’s lots of fun, I think there’s an added benefit that lots of folks don’t know about.
There have been plenty of books …
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Several years ago, I took the Celebrating the Body Erotic at the Body Electric School and it changed my life. Their experiential classes in erotic energy, breathwork, movement, and conscious sexuality have helped thousands of people discover ways to move past the barriers that restrict and limit their pleasure. I can certainly say that it did for me, as well as lots of other people I’ve spoken with.
Sinclair Sexsmith just let me know about their new class for genderqueer folks, which is super exciting! Lots of tantra and sacred sexuality classes are pretty focused on the gender binary, which can make it hard for lots of people to connect with the practices. I’ve seen some tantra classes for gay men and for lesbians …
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There area lot of ways in which pain can get in the way of sex. Health issues, pelvic pain disorders, STIs, and injuries can all make it difficult to relax and feel good. But recently, I got a question from someone that inspired me to do a little research.
It’s pretty common for people to tighten different muscles during arousal. I’ve heard some experts suggest that it’s because it can heighten the level of sensation and excitement. Some folks will hold their breathe or squeeze their legs or hips, or grab and pull on the sheets, or arch their backs. And if you do that consistently, over time, you might develop some habits around that. A few people have told me that they’d been doing …
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One of the biggest challenges I faced as I grew into adulthood was learning how to deal with the fact that the word is full of uncertainty. I remember being a kid and being obsessed with the rules of games, with making things fair, with carving everything into this and not-this. From what I know of such things, that’s a pretty standard developmental stage for children. And one of the conundrums of adulthood is having to make decisions when we don’t have all of the relevant information.
Of course, one way to approach that is to try to gather as much data as possible beforehand, but while that’s often useful, it isn’t always possible. Sometimes, the information isn’t available. Or you don’t know everything that …
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There’s a youtube video making the rounds of a TEDxSF talk by Nicole Daedone, founder of OneTaste Urban Retreat Center, and there’s a lot of great stuff there. She talks about many of the challenges we have around sexual shame in general, and female orgasm in particular. She speaks with authenticity about topics that many people only whisper about, if that. And she offers some great insight for how we can change that. I liked it a lot and I definitely recommend checking it out.
At the same time, she said something that I found troubling:
Female orgasm is vital for every single woman on the planet… It roots our fundamental capacity for connection.
This is the kind of sweeping statement that a …
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Psychology Today posted a piece by someone with a PhD in computational neuroscience and someone with a PhD in biologically inspired models of machine learning, which apparently qualifies them to make some remarkable statements about gender, sexuality, and relationships. They seem to prefer making some remarkably reductionist and essentialist claims about how sex works, along with the usual sweeping statements. That might work well in the computer lab, but that’s hardly how people work in the real world.
So I suppose it shouldn’t be a surprise that their recent piece Why Feminism is the Anti-Viagra is more of the same. Their thesis centers on the idea that “gender equality inhibits arousal”. To support this, they offer a few bits of evidence:
- many women have
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Each year, the National Sexuality Resource Center brings undergraduate, graduate, and post-doctoral students in sexuality from around the country to San Francisco for the Summer Institute on Sexuality. It’s an amazing opportunity to visit an amazing city during one of the most beautiful times of the year and to learn plenty of fascinating stuff about sex. Plus, they always schedule it so that students can go to the SF Pride Parade, one of the most fabulous events in the world! This year, it’s happening June 20-July 15.
I’m honored to be teaching my How to Be a Top Presenter class as part of the Institute. Although I’ll be offering a 3-hour version of this one at Good Vibrations in July, the class at the …
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