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Every so often, there’s another cycle in the fight over casual sex. This time, the argument was sparked Jaclyn Friedman’s piece on Yes Means Yes! The author describes her sexual explorations and describes how they brought her pleasure, fun, and healing. She never suggests that her path will work for everyone. In fact, her entire story is simply a personal reflection.
But of course, that doesn’t mean she won’t get attacked for trying to ruin the world. Susan Walsh over at Hooking Up Smart insults Friedman and calls her dangerous, while making spurious claims about the current understanding of how oxytocin works:
Oxytocin is not some disinformation cooked up by the evil patriarchy. It’s a chemical that
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Over on the Good Vibrations Magazine, I received a comment from a woman whose husband travels a lot. The two of them have a non-monogamous relationship and she’s had some difficulty finding casual partners:
I wanted to address your concept of having casual sex in a positive fashion, and how difficult that seems to be, especially for men. It’s a paradox…most men seem to choose casual sex because they don’t want to have to deal with “relationship” stuff, but if you’re sleeping with someone on a regular basis, you’re having a relationship, albeit one that leads to the bedroom and not the altar. It’s much more difficult to have casual sex than a committed relationship: it takes honesty, openness, integrity and an extremely high degree
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You may have seen the post from a couple of weeks ago, announcing that Heather Corinna, the founder of Scarleteen.com, was looking for people to participate in a short, anonymous online survey about their experiences with casual sex. She’s just announced an even shorter follow up survey, which will help fill in some of the gaps in our understanding of what casual sex means to different people.
Anyone over 16 can participate, whether you’ve had casual sex or not. Heather is especially interested in including LGBT folks, people of color, men, those over 45 and social conservatives, because most of the media debates about casual sex focus on teens and women. Please share this link as widely as possible after you take the …
Continue reading Call for Particpants: Follow Up Survey on Casual Sex Experiences
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