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This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine.
It’s hardly news that US culture is obsessed with youth. The massive amount of advertising for products to make us look or feel younger is ample evidence. While we generally think of this as more of a factor in terms of how we evaluate female attractiveness, the fact that we often consider men to be more attractive when they have less body hair (something that generally correlates with youth) or have more hair on their heads may point to some ways that this plays out differently for men.
Given that there’s a strong cross-cultural tendency to view youth as attractive, I tend to think that that’s indicative of something wired into us. I don’t …
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This also appeared in the Good Vibrations Magazine.
Unless you’ve been avoiding the news lately, you’re probably aware that Tiger Woods is in the middle of the latest celebrity sex scandal. And I think that the media kerfulffle over this has a lot to tell us about what we think about sex.
The first thing that strikes me about this situation is that we have a) a good looking dude with b) a lot of money who c) travels a lot and d) is a celebrity. To be honest, I’m surprised that he didn’t have sex with more people than the 14 women we know of as of December 25, 2009. I mean, come on! Does it really surprise anyone? Plus, I know folks …
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“It’s ok to be different because it just matters who you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re different than anybody else. It just matters if you’re having a good time and you like who you are.”
Why does that seem so hard for so many people to understand?
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I just ran across a blog about “Why Sex-Positivity is Bad for Feminism” and I’m astounded. Here’s my favorite snippet:
Of course, there are a lot of feminist issues involved in the porn industry, sex work, and in human sexuality; I just don’t think “sex positivity” is one of them. So you’re a feminist, and you like sex—well, that’s normal. So do a lot of people, including a lot of non- and anti-feminists. So what does that have to do with feminist identity?
Apparently, the author seems to have missed out on the fact that for many people, liking sex or believing that they deserve to have the sex that they want or getting to experience sexual pleasure or being able to ask …
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Porn has changed a lot over the years. First came the film loops that men watched in social clubs and at bachelor parties. Then we had the era of the classic movies that were filmed for the big screen. Next came the VCR revolution, which shifted the focus from movie theaters to the living room. This was followed by a drop in costs for cameras and other production equipment, which led to more people (mostly, but not exclusively men) making movies. And these days, it’s so easy and inexpensive to produce porn that there are about a zillion folks doing it, especially for the internet since online porn doesn’t need box covers, distribution channels or the other hassles of producing a physical product.
As …
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This makes me really happy.
Photographer Katrin Trautner has a gallery of older folks in some sweet, funny, and sexy poses. They look like they’re really having fun and it’s so great to see nude photographs of people who aren’t ripped, tanned, airbrushed, and such. Plus, some of the photos look truly, deeply intimate to me. It’s rare to see that in any photography, much less nude photography.
Click on the photo to the left to see the gallery.…
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Kim Petras (seen at the left) is reportedly the world’s youngest person to undergo gender reassignment surgery at 16. According to this article from the Austrian Times, Kim announced at the age of 2 that she was a girl and once she turned 16, she was able to have the surgery.
According to the article, her father said: “I suppose it took me longer than my wife to accept it, but Kim is a very persuasive girl, she knows what she wants and how to get it. I am very proud of what she has achieved, how she has managed to get there and how she sticks to her dreams no matter how hard and painful they are to follow.” Can I say how …
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“Why would someone enjoy that?”
“I just don’t get why someone has sex like that?”
“Why do you do that? That’s gross!”
Have you ever heard someone something like this? I definitely have. Whether it’s about spanking & bondage, anal sex, role play, casual sex, or, yes, intercourse, there’s often a little laugh. But the laughter is usually a way to deal with the discomfort, rather than finding genuine humor.
The thing is, everything that you like about sex, someone else finds really unappealing. Even something that is quite common like kissing. I can promise you that someone out there finds it incredibly unarousing or disgusting. And that’s OK. Because here’s the secret- you don’t have to get it.
You don’t have to get why …
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I’ve heard a lot of people talking about sex-positivity, especially on teh interwebs. But I don’t see as much clarity around it as I’d like. So here’s my take on what it.
First off, what sex-positivity isn’t:
Sex-positivity isn’t about how much sex you have, how many partners you have, what types of sex you have, or how often you have it. It’s not about being wild and crazy. It’s not about being a slut. It’s not about being kinky or using sex toys. It’s not about being queer. It’s not about being straight. It has nothing to do with any of that.
Sex-positivity is about having a positive relationship towards sexuality, especially your own sexuality. That means that the decisions you make about what …
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Unless you’ve been really out of touch, you’ve probably already heard about how the Mormon Church has poured millions of dollars into Proposition 8, the proposed amendment to the California constitution that would ban same-sex marriage. Mind you, this is money coming from outside the state, from a tax-exempt church in order to fund a political campaign. In all fairness, I want to acknowledge that not all Mormons support the way that the church has encouraged its members to donate money and time to support Prop. 8. And there are other religious groups that support Prop 8, but the Mormons have taken a more direct stance in the campaign than other groups. (It’s also worth noting that lots of religious groups have come …
Continue reading the lighter side of “no on prop 8″
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